We have had a pretty quiet weekend. And I'm not complaining. I like it. Friday Kylie went to the doctor to her medication adjusted. I feel it will be a good adjustment and back to the original dose she was at at BHC. I don't know why they readjusted it at state hospital. We have looked in to a couple other drugs that are recommended for bi-polar but her doctor feels she should stay on the abilify for mood stabilizer.
Thursday night we went to family counseling with Taylor. Taylor is a young and very new counselor. In fact we are his first family. The last time we saw Taylor which was several weeks ago I left with the impression that he was going to drop us. Apparently that was not the case. I know we are a little much as a family at times. I take my responsibility in that role also. I tend to get overheated in family counseling at times and shut down because I get so frustrated. I sometimes feel like my voice is not heard because I don't get as much agreement as I think I should when in fact I've come to realize sometimes I am just not rational and I am not always right. Anyhow, we went to see Taylor again Thursday night. Apparently I was not made aware that our counseling sessions with Taylor are only for Travis and I and no longer for Kylie. Not sure why...but I guess either way we can use it as a couple to help give us skills for her. This particular Thursday though I did not know that and Kylie came with us. We did work through a couple issues with her and when we left I felt a little bit bad that I had kind of undermined Taylor's ability because he did actually have some good things to say and some good input that was helpful...he just doesn't speak up as much as I think he should. But then again with Trav and Kylie and myself constantly moving our mouths it's probably hard for him to get a word in. I do have a new found respect for the poor guy.
We had an argument on Saturday. Travis had to work and there was a family in the ward who was moving. We needed to help them because they helped us move. (plus it's the Christ-like thing to do!?!?) Kamryn had driver's education so Kylie and I were supposed to go help. Well Kylie would not get out of bed so I ended up going myself. I told her what the consequence would be if she chose to not go. When I got home a couple hours later she was getting ready to meet up with a friend. I reminded her of the consequence and we had an argument about it. But I see progress in the argument. She did get upset and I was also upset but neither one of us completely "lost" it which we sometimes do. And she did understand that she had been warned and understood what the consequence would be even though she did not feel she deserve it. She was upset for a while but got over it and did not go ahead and do what she wanted. This is a huge step for her. In the past she would have just left regardless of what the agreement was. So we gave her a ton of praise for that big step.
Kylie has also been diagnosed borderline personality and if you have ever read anything about borderline personality you would immediately know it fits Kylie to a T. However, borderline personality if I understand right is learned and not "inherited" like bi-polar. But it is a mental illness and very hard to treat. It is not treated with medication.
Kylie attended chur ch with me and her sisters today. She looked really pretty and seemed to get along with her peers there well today. Toby spiked a fever again this morning and stayed home with Trav.
We had a phenomenal sacrament meeting today where I felt like I came away with a lot and a deeper gratitude for the Savior and the gospel. I admit I was in a bad mood when I got there and wasn't feeling overly spiritual but had a strong prompting that I was where I needed to be and should be and that prompting was followed by 2 really good talks by our relief society president and elders quorum president. I was so happy to be sitting with my daughters. All 3 of them.
We are preparing for a trip to Wyoming for Thanksgiving and getting excited to see all our family. Going home always comes with the good and the bad but we are lucky we have so much family that loves us and wants to see us.
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